The Pushing and Pulling Factor in me

Somehow I found that I am moving towards a destination. Whether it is towards the goal I have set or not. Doesn't matter. But still I am moving towardsa goal satisfactory to myself. Satisfactory by what means? Satisfaction of not harming others; satisfaction of being right minded. Is it not enoughfor a nice Gentleman? I could say enough. But the real truth is definitely NOT enough. Then what else is needed? Perseverance? open-minded? personality? Body Language? Respecting others? Responsibility? Yes,everything what I have listed are needed for a nice Gentleman. But this is not only enough. Things said here are knownby everyone and they also know how to gain these too. But many of us will miss-out an important thing. What is it? The answer is.. "Knowing the self". You can say "Exploring the self" or "Identifying the self" what ever. But this is not so easy as it is the real Billion-Trillion-dollar question that is being asked by saints and Yogis for centuries. But only few identified. Still the search goes on. "Knowing the self" doesn't mean something spiritualistic and vedic, even it may, but here I didn't mean't like that. What I meant was "Knowing our inner thoughts", "Finding and recognising the another human thinking in us". Knowing the self, if it goes more deeper, then it can be said as spirualistic. But what I meant here isnot more spirualistic but more meaningful and sensitive.
This includes the folowing
1.Realizing your career path
2.Realizing your level of knowledge
3.Deciding what you are going to be in next 2 years(atleast)
4.Your destination to be reached in next two years of time
5.While moving towards your goal, what pushes you towards that and what pulling you from reaching that?
-etc..few more questions you can add it up as per your own wishes.
The first four questions dont need any explanations as those are the questions raising in everybody's mind knowingly or unknowingly.The fifth number seems to be the most important fact to me(I believe). The force that drives you towards your goal and the force that pulling you out from reaching your goal. This is the point here. It is easy to find out these strengths and forces, but the need of the hour is, how to handle them? This is the right question here. But the ill fact here is no one has the right answer. If you have a strong desire to achieve your goal and if you are facing more pulling-out problems then the tug-of-war is more ferocious. You couldn't manage the crisis here. Its totally controlled by fate and depends upon what and how you worked on? Thats why I said no formula to handle this. Eventhough you couldn't manage the crisis, but there must be an end. Something should win at the end, either your desire or your problems. Even the war between your problems and your desire is happening right before your eyes and your activities are the sole reason for it, you don't have any control over this war. Only thing you could do is to sit back and watch the show. That means "You cannot manage things happening". Nobody has the formula or solution for this. Everyone let them as such and says 'let it happens'.
We can say, things motivating to make a desire or to fix up a goal is also playing as things driving towards achieving it. Hence these are araised once we started fixing the goal. But problems or pulling-out factors are raised once when we start moving towards the goal at various stages of your run-way. Also you can't predict the pulling-out factors to come everytime. They are spontaneous and un-predictable and nobody can say when it will come and stand before us. Hence we can number the problems to be so higher than the positive factors itself. Keeping that in mind, we could suggest a solution for handling the crisis situation. Eventhough we cannot find a complete solution, but we can suggest an alternative for this. Its here....

Instead of waiting for problems to come and solving those(atleast trying to), why can't we try increasing the factors that push you towards your goal? When we increase the weightage in the positive side, there are many a chance to overcome the negative pull. Predicting the problems and trying to solving it is not possible always. Though it is important to do so, improving the pushing factors will definitely make a big difference. It doesn't sure of winning the damn game. But it will make sure of getting yourself working towards your goal.(for sure)